Recovery from sex/love addictin has many challenges. It is difficult to see that there is a problem, especially in a society like ours. Often the steorotypes about addiction can create so much shame and confusion, that finding a name for the behaviors doesn't always help.
When I hear about addiction, I tend to think of the worst case scenario, and keep that as far away from my comprehension as possible. The lines can vary in that some people might believe addiction has to be a phsycial affair, while another believes it relates to criminal behavior.
Sex addiction tends to be geared more towards men, and relationship/codependency focused on women. Often I have found, that men and women have both components in their addiction, and being able to look at all aspects helps with healing and healthy relationships.
The important part is to look at the behaviors that are causing problems, and the thoughts that are concerning. Trying to fit or not fit into a profile can direct the attention away from seeking help and being what we want to be.
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
My addict mind in action
I couldn't control my thoughts and behaviors.
I was lying and hiding my behaviors.
I was in a fog, caught in my own fantasy world.
I would contemplate forbidden activities.
I was doing things that violated my values.
I felt drawn to acting out sexually and/or romantically.
I saw my behavior escalating.
I was never satisfied for long.
When I got what I thought I wanted, then I wanted more.
I was constantly thinking about the next fix.
I lived in fear.
I was isolating more from the people around me.
Emotionally I was up and down - feeling high, then depressed.
I was making excuses for my behaviors.
I was trying to rationalize what I was doing in my mind.
At times my behaviors seemed to come from no where.
Self knowledge, religious activities, and control wasn't enough.
I couldn't figure it out alone.
I was lying and hiding my behaviors.
I was in a fog, caught in my own fantasy world.
I would contemplate forbidden activities.
I was doing things that violated my values.
I felt drawn to acting out sexually and/or romantically.
I saw my behavior escalating.
I was never satisfied for long.
When I got what I thought I wanted, then I wanted more.
I was constantly thinking about the next fix.
I lived in fear.
I was isolating more from the people around me.
Emotionally I was up and down - feeling high, then depressed.
I was making excuses for my behaviors.
I was trying to rationalize what I was doing in my mind.
At times my behaviors seemed to come from no where.
Self knowledge, religious activities, and control wasn't enough.
I couldn't figure it out alone.
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